I can not believe that one of my friends can not take any effort to understand what I am going through. I wish she would understand that I had limited time and money and its nothing to do w/ not wanting to hang out. She said to me yesterday, When I said I could not go to the Medival Fair (22 dollars to get in and an hour and a half away) she says, "Steph (her sister)is broke too. I think that she is skipping a few things that she normaly does so she can come." ~ Who responds that way. Worst statement of all, that make me smash my remote in pure anger, "Yeah thats not cheap at all! I totally not belittling your life or expenses. I just think it would be insteresting some time to compare what we make and what we spend and see what the differences are."
Needless to say, I chose not to talk to her in fear I may lose my cool and say something cruel. I am going to handle this Ghandi style. Eventually, I am going to tell her that I do not want some one in my life to say hurtful things. I need a friend not a bully.
I am interested in what you guys think of those statements.
I suppose on the plus side, she is wanting to spend time with you, which is always nice, but I agree that sometimes people can be intolerant of others' tight budgets!!!
ReplyDeleteI have been there myself and it's not fun to always say "sorry, I just can't afford it"; at the same time I have felt the disappointment of not being able to do something fun with someone because they can't afford to. Example: My brother who I want to visit my new house but I know that every precious dollar (that could be spent on fuel) is going to another more important cause :)